My life sucks – 21 tips to find motivation

My life sucks

In this blog post, we give you 21 tips to find motivation when you feel that your life sucks. 

“My life sucks”

Have you ever experienced that feeling of frustration and remorse when you know you have to do something to mobilize yourself but you are actually not able to? Usually, this feeling is expressed with an exhalation of “my life sucks!”

Have you ever gone through a period of lack of motivation, apathy or worse, depression? When things that excited and motivated you before are no longer interesting?

Collapses can be devastating! They can turn you from a happy human into a lethargic, depressed, indifferent person.

If you’re in a crisis right now, you know what I mean. You may even have had goals and dreams set before you entered this crisis, but now you just seem somewhere on a distant land, unimportant and detached from reality.

My life sucks - 21 tips to find motivation

What would most of us do in this case, what do you do when you are tired, depressed and you think your life just sucks?

The average human would give up everything for a while and take a break from all his projects and aspirations. And he would spend some time in that state of depression and regardless of his progress.

After a few weeks or months, he would emerge from the crisis and become aware of how much time he had lost and how many opportunities he had given up. And it is not a happy situation at all because on some occasions you will never meet these opportunities again.

I want to help you avoid this scenario above. And instead of a few weeks or months to reduce this lack of motivation and lethargy as early as possible.

I will teach you 20 methods that worked for me in the past, to remotivate you, to reorient your life towards your goals and dreams, to be energetic and productive again and to leave all this state behind.

My life sucks - 21 tips to find motivation

21 tips to find motivation when you are depressed

#1. Take action. Before you landed in this crisis, you had goals, dreams, and to-do lists. At some point, you lost confidence in these ideas and stopped following your dreams. Well, it’s time to follow your dreams again. Don’t give up on them. 

And you can do this by taking action: Ignore your feelings of lethargy and indifference and focus on making tangible progress. As you begin to check the things you have accomplished and can cut them off the list, you will feel much better and you will feel able to achieve your dreams and goals.

#2. Persevere. Hard work does not guarantee that you will achieve your goals. But if you don’t really work and you don’t persevere, you certainly won’t achieve even one of those goals. Be aware of this when you decide what to do the next day. Take control, make plans and act!

#3. Look for examples of those who have succeeded. Just because someone has succeeded does not mean that you will succeed. But it can be a motivational example for your goal: Those who have succeeded can be a source of inspiration and hope. And, most importantly, a way out of your crisis.

#4. Learn while you do. If you face a complicated decision you have no clear answer, one of the best ways you can go further is to simply do that. What do I mean by that? Instead of thinking too much about a solution, choose one of the options available to you and then do your best to make it work. If you fail in the end, at least you can eliminate this path and then move on with the other options.

#5. Avoid overthinking. Prolonged and careful thinking about every detail is essential for success, but if taken to extremes, it can become pathological. When you think too much, you avoid making a decision, you actually feel paralyzed in a situation. So the next time you are paralyzed in a decision, stop over-analyzing the situation and choose only one path or another.

#6. Reorganize your work area. No matter what you do, it is always a good idea to have everything very well organized, especially documents. Clutter does not let you think clearly. 

#7. Start over. A common source of lack of motivation is boredom. Routine can affect your ability to work and achieve your goals. Consider moving from your daily routine to something new that excites you and motivates you to achieve new things.

My life sucks - 21 tips to find motivation

#8. Take a break. Surprisingly, crashes are very common among those who work hard. Why? Because some are so caught up in their work that when they run into an obstacle they omit the fact that they could get around it so they continue to work hard and practically fight the windmills. Take a break and watch the problem from another angle.

#9. When you take a step forward and achieve a goal, don’t forget to reward yourself. Whether you reward yourself with a trip to the city or buy something or anything else you enjoy. When you return to work, you will be happy and rested.

#10. Visit a new place. Make time to visit a new and beautiful place from time to time. A beach or a lake. Water is a very good source of energy. Or take a walk in the woods. Experience small pleasures in life to show that there are countless reasons to progress, to evolve and then to allow yourself to pamper yourself more and more often. Or go to a luxurious place and promise yourself that soon it will be normal for you to allow yourself such a thing.

#11. Reorient yourself. Collapses tend to make life blurry and out of focus. Spend some time reorienting yourself. “Clean up” your aspirations, dreams and goals and decide what to keep and what not.

#12. Organize your life and don’t let things happen in your life by chance. Don’t let things happen because that’s how your life will become. Analyze very well what you want to do and in what direction you should take it and then act in that direction. This is not only a good way to prevent “disasters”, but also a very good way to commit to doing what needs to be done.

#13. Physical activity. Sometimes the cause of lack of motivation is not always entirely psychological in nature. In many cases, the comfort zone and lack of exercise can bring us into a mental fog. A remedy for this problem is physical activity. The circulation will be activated, your back will be better oxygenated and your thoughts will become clearer. Also during physical activity, endorphins are eliminated, which will make you feel happy and restore your zest for life.

#14. Eliminate negative thoughts. Scepticism and doubt are healthy when applied in moderation, but not when it prevents you from achieving your goals. Instead of doubting whether something is possible or not, you better get to work and concentrate. you on solutions. And see what needs to be done to make it possible.

My life sucks - 21 tips to find motivation

#15. Challenge yourself to accomplish something different. If you repeat the same task every day, it may get boring and no longer a challenge for you. Find ways to challenge yourself – for example, see if you can do some tasks in half the time, and so everything will become more exciting and you will get out of this lethargy.

#16. Create artificial pressure. Most people work very well when they are under pressure or when they have no other option. You gather yourself and concentrate very well because you have no choice. Next time, start that project later, rather than earlier. And use the remaining time to do something fun and invigorating. Or to do some exercise. 

#17. Change your diet. Another common cause of “collapse” is diet. An unhealthy diet in which you eat what you grab and when you grab it will take away all your energy and zest for life. You will feel heavy and unwilling. Even if you may not believe you will see changes for the better not only on the scales but also in your mood, and in your strength and concentration. It will be a plus physically, mentally and especially EMOTIONALLY.

#18. Spend a day improving your productivity. Working hard is not the only ingredient for success. Another critical component is productivity. So spend an afternoon or even a whole day thinking about how you can be more productive. This could simply mean rearranging your work area, streamlining activities, eliminating unnecessary things and activities, and so on.

#19. Simplify your goals. We often feel that our goals are complicated and difficult to achieve. Sometimes I was shocked at how easy some are to accomplish. I just needed to change my way of looking at things a little bit. And to simplify everything. There is always an easier way. You just have to find it.

#20. Choose the road less walked. Instead of taking the path, you think you “should go” because everyone goes there, choose the path less travelled. Choose the shortcut and you will save time and it will be easier for you to finish what you need to do.

#21 Get more sleep. If you get enough sleep, you will wake up the next day with more strength, the desire to work and change something. Staying up late is not proof that you work hard but prove that you have not been efficient enough during the day and that you have lost precious time with other unimportant activities. The day is long enough if we know how to manage it more efficiently.

Bonus tip: DO NOT make all the changes at once. Start with 2-3 until you get used to it and then add another one to the list. Take it easy and safe because otherwise it will either seem too much and too hard to start, or you will give up.

My life sucks - 21 tips to find motivation

Conclusions 

No matter how depressed and how much you feel your life sucks right now, I assure you that you have the ability to get out of this crisis. You have 21 different ways you can do this.

You are the one who can “refresh” or even “restart” your entire system. You can feel good in an instant. Remember that everything starts in the brain.

Leave this state of lethargy and lack of motivation in your past and start a more productive, more fulfilling and happier life. 

Begin. To. Live. Your. Life. Now 

Please feel free to ask any questions or to leave a comment on the content in the comments section below. 

FAQ on My life sucks

Why is life so hard sometimes?

Life may seem so hard sometimes when many things that require your attention and skills happen at once. Every time you feel that life is hard you should remember that inside you have the power to overcome anything that life throws at you.

What do you do when you have a bad time?

When you are having a bad time, remember to breathe. This can be extremely important as it will help you calm down, clear your mind and take the best solution to fix any problem. 

Why is life always unfair?

Life is not always unfair or unjust. Sometimes it may feel like it, but this is because we are not trained to actually see bad things as opportunities in disguise. Every time you feel that life is unfair you should remember that inside you have the power to overcome anything that life throws at you.

How can I enjoy life every day?

To enjoy life every day you must practice daily gratitude, to have a healthy and balanced diet, to forgive yourself and the other around you. 

How do you stay strong in tough times?

You stay strong in tough times by finding what drives you, what motivates you to keep going. When things seem too hard to handle, remember why you started in the first place.

How can I be happy?

In order to be happy you have to reevaluate your daily habits. What are you doing every day to increase your level of happiness? To enjoy life every day you must practice daily gratitude, to have a healthy and balanced diet, to forgive yourself and the other around you. 

Recommendations 

Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Finding Peace in a Frantic World, by Mark Williams  

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life, by Mark Manson 

Positive Psychology: Learning positive thinking in everyday life & control your mind – Understanding & overcoming fears – Analyze people & recognize … book for beginners, by Max Krone  

Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness Kindle Edition, by Vex King  

My life sucks - 21 tips to find motivation

Nadejda Romanciuc

Nadejda Romanciuc holds a Bachelor’s degree in psychology and a diploma in Addiction studies. She is part of the Romanian Association of Integrative Psychotherapy as a psychotherapist under supervision. She's practicing online counselling for over two years and is a strong advocate for mental health.