In this brief blog we are going to discuss the statement “I don’t care about anything,” how to reprogramme your mind to care about things if you think you can find the motivation to do so
Before we go any further and discuss the “I don’t care about anything” topic, lets first answer a few questions people usually have about this topic.
What does not caring about anything mean?
Not caring simply means you have no interest in anything. A family member could die and you wouldn’t flinch. You have lost all empathy. You have become apathetic and have no purpose, no motivation, no sense of responsibility, no interest and no enthusiasm or concern for anything or others.
What does it mean when you don’t care about anyone?
When you don’t care about anyone this could be because you have lost all interest in people. This could be because you have been hurt buy a friend, boyfriend of family members. Not caring about anyone means you have no empathy. It means you are often one of the “I don’t care about anything” type of people.
How do you not care about something?
If there is something or someone worrying you then there are steps to ensure you don’t care about it.
The first to not care about something is to remove all physical traces of it.
Fill your mind with more positive thoughts, people and situations. This could be going out more often with your friends to eat out or watch movies.
What do you call someone who doesn’t care about anything?
Someone who doesn’t care about anything could be defined as a person who is lacking empathy or an apathetic person.
What is it called when you don’t care about other people’s feelings?
When you don’t care about other people’s feelings you could be defined as a sociopath or a very apathetic person. Then there is a sadist who doesn’t care about other people’s feelings but rather derives pleasure from other people’s pain. A person could also simply just be antisocial and not care about other people and hence their feelings of them
Is it bad to only care about yourself?
Caring about only yourself doesn’t make you a bad person. You should care about yourself before anyone. This is normal.
How do love yourself?
There are many ways to love yourself. Here are some tips to love yourself:
- Eat well
- Take care of your appearance by gyming or exercising regularly
- Get medical checkups yearly
- Go to the dentists yearly
- Try to take a holiday every year
- Don’t overwork yourself
- Forgive yourself quickly when you make mistakes
- Take a break when needed
How do you stop caring about someone who hurt you?
To stop caring about someone who hurt you there are a few things you should do:
- Tell them you no longer care about them and want any communication from them
- Remove and restrict access to you from them
- Fill your life with people who matter to you
- Stop caring about them or wondering how they are doing
- Find a new hobby
- Remove any gifts they gave you
How do I stop worrying?
To stop worrying there are a few scientifically-backed ways to stop worrying, they include:
- Get busy
- Find a new hobby
- Occupy your mind more with your friends and family
- Accept that worrying every now and then is possible
- Write down what you are worryied about
- Accept that you can handle your worries
- Meditate often
- Sleep better
- Eat better
Is putting yourself first selfish?
Putting yourself first is not selfish. You need to put yourself first in so many instances as you should be your first priority. It is hard for you to put others first if you have nothing to offer them. This is why it is very important to put yourself first.
Is it wrong to put yourself first?
No, it is not wrong to put yourself first, in fact, it is simply normal to put yourself first. You don’t have to wait for something to go wrong before you decide to put yourself first. Putting yourself first means that you will have enough in your tank to support friends and families when they need you.
I don’t care about anything
So, we have answered a few questions around this topic, we must now discuss what it means to not care about anything and what measures we can take to ensure we understand how we are feeling and are content with this sort of feeling.
Not caring about anything is essentially the lack of having a feeling, it isn’t even a feeling because guess what? You have none. In this case, you have apathy, which is a lack of empathy.
When you don’t care about anything you will find that you have a certain emptiness, a sinking feeling which leaves you uninterested and disengaged from everything.
We all feel like this someday
This feeling of not caring about anything isn’t just for people suffering from mental issues or people having a bad day. In fact, it is for everyone, at some point or the other we have all felt like this. We have all had those days where we don’t care about anything, we don’t feel motivated to do anything, we don’t care about work, we don’t care about our friends, we don’t care about our pets, You don’t care about your health, you forget important things, we just don’t care about anything. Don’t be too worried if you are currently feeling like this, it is likely just a brief phase where you see the world as empty and you can’t find purpose. You simply need a day off to relax.
Should you care about everything?
It’s highly likely that there is anyone out there who cares about everything. How could anyone possibly care about every single thing in life that they have come across? You must have some family members who you don’t care about, who you don’t speak to?
But, not caring about anything at all, being apathetic about every single part of your life is a cause for concern, a serious cause for concern. If for every moment you have nothing you care about or you simply don’t care about anything, you have no clue how to help yourself, no desire to inquire or to care or to even imagine what caring would feel like then this may indeed be an issue.
Many of us have been here many times, we get to a stage of life when we have to make big decisions, maybe move homes or start a new job and we find that we don’t care to share this with anyone else. We have no one to confide in, well we do but we feel like we don’t.
We begin to feel like we can do without anyone because we thrive under pressure so well. A point will come when we will feel low, unhinged, unbothered, no motivation, no route out, no opening and this may eventually drive you towards a dangerous level of apathy where the will to do anything meaningful has been lost.
The good news is that if you are feeling like this you at least care about not caring. It has bothered you to the point where you chose to do something about it and that itself says that you aren’t as bad as you may think you are. You actually do care about something. And don’t listen to that bug in your brain telling you that you are simply reading this to confirm yourself that you indeed don’t care, the fact that you care about not caring if you care is in itself still reaffirmation that you care and that you will be fine.
How to care about things
The next logical step in this journey is to find a way to care if possible. To care about anything you need some motivation but you can’t force yourself to be motivated about something, that just wouldn’t work in the long run. You need to first understand what triggers that bit of curiosity you seem to have. Is there something there that you actually like? If so what is it and why do you like it? Can you see yourself liking it after this very moment?
If you have some motivation then you will find yourself naturally caring and doing things which you may not have done before.
Trying doesn’t necessarily mean that whatever you want to do or care about will work out but at least you have taken the first step. Some of us avoid caring at all because we try and avoid fears of disappointment. Then again no one wants to be disappointed but we really avoid caring so we don’t have to face disappointment and the tranche of negative emotions which usually accompany disappointment.
Motivation will carry you through, you will find yourself going the extra mile for things when you are motivated about them. The feeling of motivation will override your fear of shame, disappointment and the tranche of negative emotions which usually accompany disappointment such as sadness, depression, etc.
Motivation gives you a “just do it” attitude as Nike termed.
You will all of a sudden find yourself being able to simply figure things out, no matter how difficult they are.
The more motivation you get the more your brain will build resilience to whatever tells you it isn’t possible or whatever lists out the number of things which could potentially go wrong.
Wading through that negative tree which always seems to have a grout sprout will ensure you go from “I don’t care about anything” to ”I care”.
What if you truly don’t feel motivated?
Not everything will come across will leave us with a good feeling. In fact, most of it will likely leave us not feeling very motivated at all so what do you do in this instance when your ”I don’t care about anything” attitude seems to slowly be creeping in and winning the power struggle your mind.
In this case, you simply need to have a go-to strategy which you always use to overcome these negative thoughts and feelings.
You need to have the courage and strength to pick something to do or something to care about and just go out there and kick ass.
You shouldnt waste too much time entertaining the fact that you don’t care about anything or questioning your motivation. These will only lead you into the false belief that you really don’t care about anything.
Doubt will increase the amount of fear or the fear of shame and disappointment you face. Avoiding all doubt and all fear is the best way forward.
In practice, the more you fear, the more you give it a go, the more you practice trying and not giving up you will begin to see a change in mindset from “I don’t care about anything” to “ I can do anything”.
In so many ways not caring about a lot of things may have resulted in you figuring out what you actually care about.
Where do you start?
Yes, the hard part, getting up and actually doing something. We have all felt like that, no motivation to even brush your teeth 9nasty), no motivation to eat, no motivation to go to work or even call your friends.
So how do you start this journey which doesn’t look promising and you seemingly have no motivation for because you simply don’t care about anything?
As with anything, we can’t win all our battles we must carefully pick the battles we fight and maybe it is much easier just choosing the easiest battles, winning those and getting back on your horse for the next challenge ahead.
Trying to tackle everything at the same time may not be the wisest decision. You will end up feeling overworked and with little reward.
Make a list of your battles, pick the easiest ones and win them convincingly.
Don’t pick on the easy tasks and then give up after the first try, no, go all the way and make sure your victory is established.
Your small wins could be something as easy as going for a run every week or every morning. Little things that just make you conscious that you are in control and that you can say something and then go on to achieve it.
Apathy isn’t a great thing, it usually will come down to self-hate, you end up thinking you don’t care about anything and you certainly don’t care about yourself.
But in truth the principle of reversing this is quite simple, it goes like this “ The key to not hating yourself is not doing things that give you justifications for hating yourself, and instead of doing things that give you justifications for liking yourself.“
What’s the point in doing something which makes you feel bad, something which doesn’t add to your day. There isn’t any point in doing any of these things.
We wrote all this but then we stumbled against a view from a different author who essentially questioned what the point of caring was at all.
He states “ ers telling you that there’s something wrong with you for not caring about anything. True joy only comes when you realize you have no cares in the world. When you find yourself caring too much about external things you realize that you’re in a state of dissatisfaction. When in deep sleep, do you have any cares? Aren’t you quite satisfied? Would you be considered depressed?
Our society is insane. By society, I mean the collective narrative, not individuals of course. Humans don’t need much to survive, thrive but collectively, we act greedily and marginalize large portions of our species. The capitalistic society also tries to get people addicted to various concepts that promote profits for the producers and isn’t optimized for collective human welfare. Knowing the nature of this can lead to apathy, even in the well-to-do. “ source- Quora
Well who knows? You
In this brief guide, we covered the topic ”I don’t care about anything” we hope you have found something useful from this guide.
If you are suffering from depression, anxiety, loneliness or any similar mental health issue then seeking help for it may be a good option. Mental health issues such as depression, loneliness and anxiety can affect anyone of us.
If you are under 18 then CAMHS, an NHS run programme may just be the answer for your mental health struggles.
You should look to see if you meet the CAMHS referral criteria and then fill in the CAMHS referral form.