Fed up with life?

Fed up with life
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Juanita Agboola is the editor in chief of HFNE and an expert in mental health online. She has been writing about online behaviour, mental health and psychology issues since 2012. All Guides are reviewed by our editorial team which constitutes various clinical psychologists, PhD and PsyD colleagues.

Fed up with life? (What to do)

Are you feeling fed up with life and don’t really know what to do? Well, let us tell you there are a few things you can do when you are fed up with life. First of all, monotony is one of the most common complaints about people when they feel fed up with life. This is because monotony takes excitement and novelty out of life, so we get bored and fed up. 

Sometimes we feel as is our lives were already determined by destiny dictating what happens in our lives and there is nothing we can do to change our circumstances because, most likely, we have already tried. But, the truth is that you are the owner of your fate and destiny. 

However, we also know that Life comes with constant ups and downs and sometimes you may be completely fed up with how things are going in your life at that moment in time. So what should you do about it? How can you make yourself feel better? You remember with nostalgia those days when life had a meaning, or those days when you had big dreams and plans. 

Fed up with life?

In order to prompt change, it is important to change your perspective on life. To begin with, write down how you are currently feeling, then write down your thoughts. Usually, your thoughts and feelings are different. Also, this helps you take a different perspective sometimes, since what you consider a huge issue or problem, in the end, it is not as big as it seems. 

You’ve just described your feeling state goals, and absolutely critical, and often overlooked, step to creating the life you want. In order to create the life you want so you stop feeling fed up, it is important to outline exactly what you want and importantly how you want to feel. 

It is important to be aware of the feelings and emotions you ought to be feeling. Instead of living a life you think you should be living and not one that you deserve to be living.

Often people think “when I achieve ________________, I will feel valued, safe, confident, loved, successful, etc.”  Instead, flip this process around, and beginning with the feeling states you desire, you effectively reverse engineer your way into positive achievements.  

Aligning your efforts with your desired feeling states will tap into a new energy source because you won’t be spending all of that energy on making yourself do things you don’t want to do.

Fed up with life?

Next, make a list of what you know to be true about yourself, be as specific as you can. This will help shift your mindset from unstable, unsure, to a direct yes or no mindset, that will help you with your decision making and change your perspective in life. From someone who is lost to someone who is finding themselves.

An example of a list is:

  • I love my rabbit
  • I enjoy spending some time outside every day.
  • I love to fish and my favorite place to do that is the open sea.
  • I love to create a home and my favorite way to do that is to garden.
  • I love to cook when I am entertaining.
  • I like being with other people.
  • I love spending time with my cousins

The list you’ve just created is a list of your passions – made up of your values and strengths. No matter what changes in your future you want these to stay the same.

Finally your intentions by writing down what you want from yourself in the future. Whilst you are by yourself and at peace, note down what you want from yourself, again be as specific as you can be.

Use these prompts to help you get clear: “In three years I want to…

  • be…,
  • do…,
  • create…,
  • Experience….
  • have….. “

Feeling fed up is an internal message telling you to adjust your course.  The very thing you believe you don’t have time for is exactly what you need to get unstuck.  

Pausing, resting, playing are all recalibrations of the amazing guidance system that you already have within you.  Tune in, give yourself permission to thaw old dreams and imagine up new ones.   

Focus on what you do want vs. what you don’t want and discover that by clear intentions.

Why am I fed up?

There are many reasons why you can feel fed up with life. Let’s mention some of them. 

Stress

This is one of the most common reasons to be fed up with life because it can affect you every single day, non-stop, if you don’t do anything about it. Sometimes we let stress control our lives and we end up getting so used to it that we don’t know how to live our lives any other way. Recognize and identify the stressors in your life to be able to fight back.

“Everything goes wrong…”

Sometimes we feel like everything in our lives is going wrong, one bad thing after the other. So, it is easy to think “no matter what I do, everything still goes wrong”. Here is when we start to feel hopeless and even depressed due to our circumstances, making us think we are fed up with life.

Existential crisis

According to Healthguidance.org, “Existentialism is the concept that we are alone in the universe and that there is no God and no higher purpose to life. Certainly even for those with belief systems sometimes the universe can seem a bit mysterious and the motives behind events can seem a bit mysterious.”

When we start thinking about our very existence, why we are here in this world, what is the meaning of life, and other questions like these then it is easy to get confused by them and think “I really don’t know”. The uncertainty is dangerous because it can make us question our very existence and how it is “Pointless” making us fall into the “Fed up with life” state of mind. 

The hamster wheel

Sometimes we feel as if we are that little hamster trapped in an endless static spinning wheel going nowhere. Just like the hamster, we tend to run as fast as we can but since we are not going anywhere we stop at some point since no matter how fast we run, nothing seems to change. This “Hamster wheel” mentality makes us feel as if we are fed up with life. 

Get out of your hamster wheel, stop for a second and appreciate the full picture, think about what you could do differently this time. 

Fed up with life?

Depression

Sometimes is not clear if depression comes when we are fed up with life or being fed up with life causes depression. Either way, we tend to see our lives as everything is just gray and colorless, which takes away any positive emotion or ability to feel excited. The things that used to make us happy or bring joy to our lives lose meaning or importance. 

Remember, depression is a very serious mental illness and if this is a pervasive state it is important to seek professional help.  

What can you do to stop being fed up with life?

Re-create your life, how? Questioning your daily routines. Ask yourself what could be done differently. This opens a world of possibilities and it can actually become exciting. 

In tune with Gretchen Pisano from everydaypower.com, “Here is the beautiful part of this plan, when you are fed up with the path your life has taken the way out isn’t a dramatic exit, an abandonment of all that you’ve worked for along the way, or a courageous leap out of what feels like a safe routine.” 

The whole idea to get out of the “Fed up with life” state is to change your perception about life. Perhaps you don’t know the meaning of life yet, that is fine because it gives us that sense of freedom, to create our own meaning and purpose. This is what makes us unique and special, be sure no one else will have the same meaning and purpose as you do. 

Moreover, it is recommended to take the time to make the most out of your freedom and to explore all the possibilities. This does not mean you have to travel or become a volunteer, but exploring everything the world has to offer by falling in love, reading new books, meeting new people, learning a new language, learning about new topics, doing something you have always wanted but never had the time, take risks, laugh more, among endless possibilities. 

Hopefully, you can find helpful resources and ideas to overcome being fed up with life. We are aware they might not be useful for everyone or the solution everyone needs to overcome being fed up with life. This is why, if you are still feeling fed up after trying some or all of the strategies we have mentioned, then it is recommended to talk to a therapist or a psychiatrist. 

Mental health professionals can help you learn how to control stress, make lifestyle changes, teach you scientific-based strategies or in the case of a psychiatrist, he/she can opt to prescribe medication. 

Fed up with life?

Why is this blog about “Fed up with life? (What to do)”, important?

Being fed up with life is not a pleasant or normal feeling. Understanding why we do feel we are fed up with life is important, as well as knowing what to do to help us overcome the feeling. Acknowledging the feeling and knowing the reason why we are feeling this way can be very helpful to make some changes and lifestyle adjustments.

Having this in mind, it is important to recognize depression can manifest when we are feeling this way and as we know, it is a very disabling condition and can make us have suicidal thoughts and behaviors. This is why it is necessary to ask for help when, after trying everything, we still feeling exactly the same or even worse.

Please feel free to comment in the comments section below! 

References

Healthguidance.org: I’M SO FED UP WITH LIFE

Everydaypower.com: 3 Things To Do When You Are Fed Up

Dailymail.co.uk

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