The best Enneagram 5w4 relationships (Best fit)

Enneagram 5w4 relationships

In this blog post, we will talk about the best Enneagram 5w4 relationships compatibility. We also describe the Enneagram 5w4 characteristics, and explain what are the Enneagram personality traits. 

Enneagram 5w4 relationships compatibility

Based on a study about the Enneagram Relationships & Marriages, below you can find the most common Enneagram relationships types. Of course, this does not mean that the combinations are also the best. 

Most Common Match If The: 
Woman is Type 1 (Perfectionist)Man is Type 9 (Peacemaker)
Woman is Type 2 (Helper)Man is Type 8 (Leader)
Woman is Type 3 (Achiever)Man is Type 1 (Perfectionist)
Woman is Type 4 (Artist)Man is Type 9 (Peacemaker)
Woman is Type 5 (Thinker)Man is Type 1 (Perfectionist)
Woman is Type 6 (Loyalist)Man is Type 8 (Leader) or Type 9 (Peacemaker)
Woman is Type 7 (Enthusiast)Man is Type 5 (Thinker) or Type 1 (Perfectionist)
Woman is Type 8 (Leader)Man is Type 9 (Peacemaker)
Woman is Type 9 (Peacemaker)Man is Type 6 (Loyalist)
Most Common Match If The: 
Man is Type 1 (Perfectionist)Woman is Type 2 (Helper)
Man is Type 2 (Helper)Woman is Type 4 (Artist)
Man is Type 3 (Achiever)Woman is Type 9 (Peacemaker)
Man is Type 4 (Artist)Woman is Type 2 (Helper)
Man is Type 5 (Thinker)Woman is Type 1 (Perfectionist)
Man is Type 6 (Loyalist)Woman is Type 2 (Helper)
Man is Type 7 (Enthusiast)Woman is Type 1 (Perfectionist)
Man is Type 8 (Leader)Woman is Type 2 (Helper)
Man is Type 9 (Peacemaker)Woman is Type 4 (Artist)

According to this data, Enneagram 5w4 is more commonly found in a relationship with a Perfectionist, type 1. Let’s see how their relationship would work out.

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Type 1 and Type 5

According to the Enneagram Institute, Enneagram types 1 and 5 fit very well mentally. Both type 1 and type 5 are more reluctant to express emotions in a direct way. Therefore, both partners will engage in the relationship in an objective, logical way – rather than an emotional way.

1 and 5 will not be the romantic couple that everyone admires, but people will certainly be impressed by the mental attraction between the two. 1 and 5 like to stimulate themselves intellectually, they spend a lot of time talking to each other about almost anything, but especially about the common interests they have.

The partners of this couple love to spend time together in a practical form – activities that will intellectually stimulate both partners, such as a puzzle, a common hobby, travelling or learning a foreign language. Intellectual stimulation is very important for the success and harmony of their relationship.

The gallant, classic and full of admiration way of approaching a person, the old-fashioned relationships are characteristic of both type 1 and type 5. Neither 1 nor 5 will throw themselves into any relationship, rather they will be patient to find that right relationship, that person who shares with them the idea of boundaries, intimacy and self- respect.

In their relationship, type 1 will come with attention to detail, order, desire to perfect the relationship. At the same time, type 5 will come with a taste for adventure, curiosity, mystery, constructive chaos, the desire to change. Surely this couple will complement each other wonderfully, as long as they have time to get to know each other better and have enough patience to form a romantic relationship.

The best Enneagram 5w4 relationships (Best fit)

About the enneagram 5w4  

Enneagram 5w4 is a combination of personality traits 4 and 5, type 5 is predominant.

Precisely because Enneagram 5w4 has features of both type 5 and type 4, below we will present the features of each type.

Type 5: Thinker or investigator. Withdrawn attitude. Motivated by power

The thinker identifies with his own thoughts more than any other type. For others, the intellect, the strong need for independence and intimacy, as well as the intensity of intellectual interests stand out. These people are eager to explain to the world around them and to predict their actions. Regardless of the profession, they want to investigate, observe and understand things deeply.

5 has problems with loneliness, eccentricity and nihilism. At a healthy level, type 5 is a visionary and a pioneer of what will follow. He has ideas ahead of his time and is able to impose a completely new vision of the world.

The essential motivations of the thinker are: to have the knowledge, to understand the environment, to be omniscient, to be able to defend themselves from the environment. The fundamental fear is to be incapable, helpless. The fundamental desire is to be able, competent.

Self-Knowledge. Type 5 of the enneagram can be found in the following statements:

• I usually keep what I feel for myself.

• I like to know in advance what will happen.

• I’m not very good at small talk.

• I like to synthesize and correlate ideas intellectually.

• I need time alone and space.

• I often sit back and watch, instead of getting involved.

• I am quieter than most. People often ask me what I’m thinking.

• It’s hard for me to ask for someone’s help.

• If a problem arises, I like to think about solving it first and then discuss it with others.

• I like to detach myself and look at things in perspective. If I omit something, I accuse myself of being too simplistic or naive.

The basic type of enneagram 5 with tangential personality or `wing` 4 is the Iconoclast – the one that challenges traditional values.

Professions. Theorist, inventor, engineer. As a manager, he takes care of the staff. They can also be successful in building a new and innovative organization.

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Type 4: Individualist or romantic. Withdrawn attitude. Motivated by his ideal.

More than any other type, the romantic tries to understand himself. He tests his emotions, looking for the authenticity of feelings and self-expression – generally through art. This type is unusually sensitive and intuitive, often interested in spiritual development.

At a healthy level, 4 has deep and intense relationships, which can lead to the transformation of both partners, and at an unhealthy level, his life is marked by a series of failed relationships. The problems of this type are melancholy, neglect and self-pity.

The essential motivations of the romantic are: to express themselves, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to keep certain states and feelings, to withdraw in order to protect their image, to take care first of all of their emotional needs, to attract a `saviour`. The fundamental fear is not to have an identity or personal importance. The fundamental desire is to create an identity.

Self-Knowledge. Type 4 of the enneagram can be found in the following statements:

• I feel something is missing from my life.

• I try to look relaxed and natural.

• I was always attracted to symbolism.

• People do not have feelings as deep as mine.

• I like to do things with the class.

• The environment is very important to me.

• It is easy for me to differentiate between `best` and` best known`.

• I don’t like to think of myself as an ordinary person, with ordinary problems.

• I oscillate between very good and very bad moods. When I am in the middle I feel `dead`.

• People have accused me of being too dramatic, but they don’t know how I really feel.

The basic personality 4 with tangential personality 5 is the Bohemian.

Professions. The need for expression makes him choose the profession of poet, musician, actor, artist. He has an original way of shaping his environment and expressing his feelings. He is not often met as a manager, but in this position he can see extraordinary possibilities in an ordinary business situation. It can channel its creative energy to build a new, unique organization.

The best Enneagram 5w4 relationships (Best fit)

What are the Enneagram personality types?

Enneagram is the name of one of the newest personality systems, which emphasizes psychological motivation and emotional perspective on life. The name comes from the Greek words ennea (new) and grammes (something is written or drawn).

The nine Enneagram personality typologies are represented by a geometric figure called the enneagram, which also indicates the connections between the nine types. 

The enneagram consists of three parts: the circle, which according to esoteric traditions symbolizes unity, an inner triangle (connects types 3, 6 and 9) that symbolizes the `law of three` and an irregular hexagon (connects types 1, 4, 2, 8, 5 and 7) which symbolizes the `law of the seven` – 142857 represents the decimal that is repeated after dividing 1 by 7.

The enneagram is not used in specialized academic studies but rather is promoted in the business management environment and the religious or spiritual one. In business, it provides information about the dynamics of work, and in the spiritual environment, it is a way to a better understanding of the self and to spiritual development.

 Critics of this system argue that the data provided are more subjective and interpretive than those provided by academic tests – such as Myers-Briggs, making it more difficult to scientifically validate.

Basic personality type

The enneagram represents a set of 9 distinct personality types, each of which is represented by a number. It is common for a person to find himself in each of these types, but only one will predominate – this is the basic type. Each of us is born with a personality dominated by one of these types, and innate temperament and other prenatal factors are the main determinants of personality.

Tangential personality type

The basic personality type can undergo slight changes, following the influences exerted by the two adjacent personality types – tangential on the enneagram. These are also called `wings`. Tangential types add new, sometimes contradictory elements to the basic type. The `wing` is the second side of the coin and must be considered to better understand a person.

For example, a person with the basic personality 9 has a `wing` either type 1, type 8, or both. These tangential personalities influence but do not change their basic personality.

The best Enneagram 5w4 relationships (Best fit)

Conclusions 

In this blog post, we talked about the best Enneagram 5w4 relationships compatibility. We also described the Enneagram 5w4 characteristics and explained what are the Enneagram personality traits. 

 Enneagram 5w4 is more commonly found in a relationship with a Perfectionist, type 1.

The partners of this couple love to spend time together in a practical form – activities that will intellectually stimulate both partners, such as a puzzle, a common hobby, travelling or learning a foreign language. Intellectual stimulation is very important for the success and harmony of their relationship.

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FAQ about enneagram 5w4 relationships

What is Enneagram 5w4?

Enneagram 5w4 is a combination of personality traits 4 and 5, type 5 is predominant. These people are eager to explain to the world around them and to predict their actions. Regardless of the profession, they want to investigate, observe and understand things deeply.

How do you have a relationship with Enneagram 5?

To have a romantic relationship with Enneagram 5 you need to know that they do not like to be put under pressure. They love to share their ideas, they are into intellectual stimulation. Listen to them, find interesting things to do together. 

Which Enneagram type is the rarest?

The rarest Enneagram type is type 4, or the Individualist.

What was Jesus on the Enneagram?

On the Enneagram, it is believed that Jesus was a personality type number 9, because of his patience and kindness. 

Further reading

Enneagram Self-Discovery: Understand Personality Types to Enhance Your Spiritual Growth & Build Healthy Relationships, by Elliot Hudson 

The Enneagram Of Personality: Why Discovering Your Unique Personality Type Is Essential For Your Personal Growth, by Arthur Canfield 

The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery (The Road Back to You Set), by Ian Morgan Cron

The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth, by Christopher L. Heuertz  

References

Kale, S.H. and Shrivastava, S. (2003), “The enneagram system for enhancing workplace spirituality”, Journal of Management Development, Vol. 22 No. 4, pp. 308-328. 

Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery, by Don Richard Riso, Russ Hudson

Understanding the Enneagram: The Practical Guide to Personality Types, by Don Richard Riso, Russ Hudson

The best Enneagram 5w4 relationships (Best fit)

Nadejda Romanciuc

Nadejda Romanciuc holds a Bachelor’s degree in psychology and a diploma in Addiction studies. She is part of the Romanian Association of Integrative Psychotherapy as a psychotherapist under supervision. She's practicing online counselling for over two years and is a strong advocate for mental health.