Are you Demiboy? (The Ultimate guide)

Are you Demiboy? (The Ultimate guide)

In this blog post, we will define the terms demiboy, demigirl, demiagender and non-binary. We also talk about what it means to live as a non-binary person.

Demiboy – what does it mean?

Demiboy is a non-binary gender identity belonging to the subgroup of Demigender where the person partially but not totally identifies as a boy. Some people only use this label to refer to themselves, thus making their “other half” gender or simply feel only partially boys, and others who add certain identities such as “demi-neutrois” or “demi-polygender. “

Usually, they have “he” and “his” pronouns, but it can vary according to the person’s particular taste. A person can identify himself as Demiboy regardless of his biological sex.

Demiboy can also be considered biologically male people who do not feel a significant connection to their sex but not to the point of suffering gender dysphoria. We can also use it for transsexual men who still feel ties to “old sex”.

An agender (agender) is a person who defines themselves as genderless, so a demiagender (semi-agender) is partially genderless, while the other part can be unimportant, unspecified or another gender.

Their pronouns vary widely but are usually “they” and “their”, “them” and “theirs” in English. A Demiagender does not depend on his biological sex to identify himself.

The demiboy flag is from the same vector as the trans flag, and has these colours:

  • Blue: Symbolizes masculinity or being a man.
  • Light grey: Symbolizes being partially degenerate or genderless.
  • White: Symbolizes membership in non-binary genres.
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Discrimination is received mainly by those cisgender people who try to claim the non-existence of non-binary genres, saying that there are only two genders and you have to identify yourself as those genres.

The demiboys (and the demiagenders themselves) suffer from a type of dysphoria (thus characterizing themselves as part of the trans * spectrum, which is any person who suffers from some type of dissatisfaction with their biological sex or gender). 

The demiboy is one hundred percent satisfied with being referred to by “him” but he doesn’t feel completely like a boy. 

Demigirl

Demigirl is a type of non-binary gender belonging to the subgroup of Demigender where the individual identifies himself partially as a girl. Your other half may or may not be defined, as that depends on the person’s preference.

Thus demigirl (or semi-girl) is the gender identity of someone who defines their gender as partially feminine, while the other half is unimportant, unspecified or another gender.

They usually have “she” and “hers” as pronouns, but it can vary according to the person’s particular taste. A person can identify himself as Demigirl regardless of his biological sex. Demigirl can also be considered biologically women who do not feel a significant connection to their sex but not to the point of suffering gender dysphoria. 

Demigirl’s flag is similar to the trans flag, and has these colours:

  • Light grey: Which represents the partial absence of gender.
  • Pink: Represents femininity or women.
  • White: Represents conformity to non-binary genres.
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Individuals who identify in this way are, like anyone who suffers from some type of gender dysphoria, part of the trans *spectrum (with an asterisk, since without it refers exclusively to the trans community) where the person feels comfortable calling the girl himself but she feels a kind of weirdness or misplaced when she is referred to by “her”.

People who are in the Demigirls usually tend to go for other non-binary identities like maverique, genderqueer, etc. Since they associate this nonconformity with the absence of gender instead of feeling completely uncomfortable with their body (that is, they consider themselves this way because they are satisfied with their body and do not want to transition, but regarding gender, they are unsure of the reason for their partial identity.)

Demiagender

Demigender (Demi, from French, Meio + Gender, in English, gender) is an umbrella term that covers people who feel only partly related to a certain gender identity.

It is a relatively new concept in the LGBTQIA + community, making it still unknown and/or little accepted.

Among the various “types” of Demigenders are Demigirl, Demiboy, Demiagender, Deminonbinary, Demiflux and Demifluid, but there are still several combinations to be recognized around the world.

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What does it mean to be non-binary?

The term non-binary is used by individuals who do not identify as men or women. In other words, they find themselves on a fluid spectrum between the terms man and woman. 

Non-binary, in essence, is the term used for those who do not identify with the gender to which they were assigned at birth. For this reason, many non-binary people consider themselves part of the trans or LGBT community.

Someone who is not binary does not see himself as a man or a woman specifically. This is a very broad way of saying that these people do not see themselves in the way society said they should be.

A non-binary person may also struggle with sexual orientation and may even consider it transgender so that their body reflects what is most closely identified with sex.

Living as a non-binary person

As I’m sure you’ve already guessed, being non-binary can come with its challenges. Many people do not understand exactly what it is and some even refuse to acknowledge that it exists.

For these reasons, non-binaries can change your whole life. Once you realize exactly what it means, you will be faced with challenges that other people will never think of. 

Truth is, in the beginning, people don’t believe in it. This changes your life for many different reasons. For one, people who don’t believe you when you say you’re not a man or a woman will only make it hard for you and make you feel bad.

They usually raise their eyebrows in confusion and give their day as if you were just excusing the nonsense of not identifying either sex. This will make you feel upset and you will avoid telling people – which suffocates your need to be understood.

People will think you just want attention. This is one of the most annoying things about society today. They believe that anyone who claims not to be binary is just looking for attention because it is a hot topic in today’s world of controversy.

Some people think it’s just a phase. This is another thing that will stop you to the end. People will more or less ignore you when you try to tell them that they are non-binary because they will think that it is just something you are going through now and not a serious problem.

Some may have the courage to tell you that it is just a phase and you will get out of it. Those people don’t have to be in your life. Therefore, you may end up cutting some people in your life who choose not to recognize who you are.

You will feel misunderstood. This is the biggest challenge. If all your life you have managed to reach people and talk to them about everything and be understood and then come out as non-binary, suddenly no one really understands you.

Being non-binary can be very difficult because for the rest of your life you have been dropped into a certain category and you can’t even choose any of the categories as one “because it’s not what you feel”.

This can make you feel like you don’t belong, and that’s a little life-changing because when you don’t feel like you’re included in life, you feel alone and left out. It can make you withdrawn and less likely to engage with other people.

However, being non-binary is not something that someone chooses, but rather it is at a deeper level. It has the ability to change your life in many ways!

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Conclusions

In this blog post, we defined the terms demiboy, demigirl, demiagender and non-binary. We also talked about what it means to live as a non-binary person.

Demiboy is a non-binary gender identity belonging to the subgroup of Demigender where the person partially but not totally identifies as a boy.  Usually, they have “he” and “his” pronouns, but it can vary according to the person’s particular taste. A person can identify himself as Demiboy regardless of his biological sex.

Demiboy can also be considered biologically male people who do not feel a significant connection to their sex but not to the point of suffering gender dysphoria. We can also use it for transsexual men who still feel ties to “old sex”.

If you have any questions or comments on the content, please let us know.

FAQ about Demiboy

What is Demiboy?

Demiboy is a non-binary gender identity belonging to the subgroup of Demigender where the person partially but not totally identifies as a boy.

Is Demiboy valid?

Yes, Demiboy is valid if you feel you are a demiboy! Some people only use this label to refer to themselves, thus making their “other half” gender or simply feel only partially boys, and others who add certain identities such as “demi-neutrois” or “demi-polygender. “

What is Demifluid?

A Demifluid (or semi-fluid) identifies itself as part of a static gender (it can be man, woman, non-binary, schedule) and part of a gender that changes (it can also be man, woman, non-binary, schedule ).

Is Demigirl a gender?

Yes, Demigirl is a gender identity that is part of the Demiagender category. Demigender (Demi, from French, Meio + Gender, in English, gender) is an umbrella term that covers people who feel only partly related to a certain gender identity.

What is the difference between Genderfluid and non-binary?

Gender fluidity is a gender identity that can change over time and you have the feeling that you do not have a defined gender. Non- binary tends to be used as more of a catchall for people who do not identify with the binary categories of male and female. 

How many genders are there now?

There are 5 genders now: male, female, hermaphrodite, female pseudohermaphroditism and male pseudohermaphroditism. 

Further reading

Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, by  Jerrold S. Greenberg

Diversity in Couple and Family Therapy: Ethnicities, Sexualities, and Socioeconomics, by Shalonda Kelly

Identities and Inequalities: Exploring the Intersections of Race, Class, Gender, & Sexuality (B&b Sociology) by David Newman 

Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type, by Paul D. Tieger 

References

transequality.org/

Genderqueerid.com

nonbinary.wiki/

Are you Demiboy? (The Ultimate guide)

Nadejda Romanciuc

Nadejda Romanciuc holds a Bachelor’s degree in psychology and a diploma in Addiction studies. She is part of the Romanian Association of Integrative Psychotherapy as a psychotherapist under supervision. She's practicing online counselling for over two years and is a strong advocate for mental health.