On our return from an offsite energy project with the team, as a conclusion, I requested each one to spend a few minutes to recall the proudest feeling moments of the past year. As we have accomplished it successfully. Every one recalled some brief moments and I added up my personal remarks about what I appreciated in that person. Others were striking for long. The positive energy was transmissible, but it’s not something we can ever take for granted. Various people drive so many different things from their work, but the most precious is the feeling of being recognized and appreciated for their work. The feeling of recognition of the contribution of unique value to the whole truly matters. In this article, we will discuss appreciation.
According to a worldwide study conducted by Towers Watson, if the workers feel that their managers are truly interested and care about their wellbeing, this feeling is the only highest driver of their engagement. If this factor is missing, then less than 40 percent of workers felt so engaged. People feel lifted up if they are genuinely appreciated. We feel so safe, even at the most basic level. This makes us do our level best for the work. Appreciation boosts our energy as well. Often it happens when we feel ourselves at risk; we become preoccupied with various negative thoughts. This situation diverts our energy, and sometimes even drains it, and retains us from generating value. So why if we openly praise or express our appreciation to other people at work, it is so easily considered as awkward, artificial, slushy, and even dishonest?
The best answer to this is that we usually are not good enough to communicate the optimistic emotions in the workplace. We feel very comfortable while neither appreciating others and we are also nor familiar with how to share our feelings with others. Appreciating others is very hard work for us, and we have not built this ability in us, not even encouraged for it. Unfortunately, we are very well experienced at expressing our negative emotions to others. We are very well trained to show the reactions and defensiveness. And we often don’t care about the harsh impact on others.
The feeling of being devalued and impacted by negative emotions is extremely poisonous. As Daniel Goleman describes in his book, “Threats to our standing in the eyes of others are almost as powerful as those to our very survival.” Workers who were criticized unfairly by their bosses, or if their bosses didn’t listen to their issues, were found to have a 30 percent higher rate of coronary disease than to those workers, who were treated honestly and listened to their issues, as stated in a well-known study.
To be a successful manager, you have to take some practical steps, to use appreciation and to build an environment suitable for a highly efficient and more sustainable team.
1. As the Hippocratic Oath prescribes to physicians, “Above all else, do no harm.”
2. Start appreciating yourself.
3. Notice on priority if others are doing right.
4. Appreciate where necessary.
The Power of Appreciation
“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough” — Oprah Winfrey. Appreciation stands for the quality of being gratified, willingness to show appreciation for, and to return kindness. When we see something good or someone good, that we enjoy seeing, we appreciate it. Appreciation communicates happiness and motivates someone to act positive or move forward, it is basically a mental state of joy. It can be defined as any good feeling but it is not a touchy feeling.
Appreciative tendency nature affects dramatically on our mental well-being.
Behavioral science states that whatever we face in our lives, it always has many positive effects, that’s why we must be thankful for whatever we are receiving from life. New doors to the relationship always open by appreciation. If you want to improve your mental and physical health, just appreciate others and be appreciated. It will make you feel better, and reduce your negative reactions. Appreciation increases confidence in people and even helps them to sleep well.
Life doesn’t oblige us anything. Appreciation teaches that everything is not for granted.
We can feel admiration and appreciation towards following four things, as per preaching of the Buddha:
- the good within yourself
- the good within others
- the blessings of being born human
- the many advantages and opportunities you enjoy
Appreciation is a very powerful tool. It reflects a very profound effect on both parties, the same amount of mental satisfaction received by the receiver as well as the deliverer. Even something more ordinary as email response rates are affected by appreciation. Ending up your emails with “Thank you in advance,” “highly appreciated” and “Cheers” are the most powerful words and always put a good effect on the receiver. Always appreciate others with respect and kindness. Appreciating your coworkers shows respect and admiration to others and gives courage to them.
Always Appreciate Genuinely.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”― Maya Angelou
Appreciation always supports people to find the good in their lives and urge for the best. It always gives them the desire to connect themselves to other people or developed supremacy. Appreciation is the most powerful optimistic emotion. It gives the sense of being gifted to the receiver. When the supporter appreciates, the beneficiary’s confidence rises to the peak.
Good deeds always begin from within, so start appreciating yourself. Be grateful for everything you have in life and for being who you are. If you do so, you can easily recognize and appreciate the good things and deeds of others as well.
Being appreciative is not a transactional behavior.
Many positive psychologists, practicing behavioral science, are confident that appreciation plays a very complex interaction between the giver and receiver. Your appreciation will be considered as a compulsion if you express gratitude to someone for something worthless. People will take your intention of appreciation as a habit if you are by birth appreciative or maybe you only want to see good in people. It is good and Being grateful is vital to be appreciative, but always provide a good genuine reason to appreciate. It is recognition of expressing shared values between the receiver and the giver. It is good to appreciate others’ deeds, but before doing so, make sure that your expression must be true.
Behavioral psychologist, Mairéad Foody said: “‘Appreciation requires complex levels of perspective-taking, in terms of recognizing what you value for yourself and how you perceive this should be appreciated by others.” Appreciation is kind of bilateral, the receiver and deliverer must have a genuine reason to appreciate and to be appreciated. Always consider the following questions:
- If the other person’s action actually provides you any benefit?
- Is your appreciation habitual or it is real?
- If your intention of appreciation is because of some personal interest or it is real?
Appreciation shows gentleness. Helping others is a good thing but you have to think about the authentic advantage. Sometimes people suspect your kindness to them is because of their unkind attitude towards themselves.
Gentleness shows appreciation. You will easily accept a kind expression towards you by others if you are kind by default.
Appreciate your life more.
Always remember 3 Questions to Appreciate Your Life More:
“These two people are hard to find in the world. The one who is first to do a kindness, and the one who is grateful and thankful for the kindness done.” — Buddha
While seeing the world from the top of the mountain, our perspective of looking at things is wider. We look at a bigger picture and do not focus our consideration on opportunities. When we concentrate on our self with the mind’s eye, exactly the same thing happens. If you want to understand your life better, you have to follow the Japanese term “Naikan” which means “looking inside”. It is a very organized way of self-reflection. Make up your mind to answer the following 3 simple questions. Although these are very simple but powerful.
What have I received from ____?
What have I given to ____?
What troubles and difficulties have I caused ____?
Note: Whatever you want to reflect on any aspects of your life, it may be relationships, objects, moments, or any other thing, fill up the blanks accordingly.
There is a fourth question as well, “What troubles and difficulties have (person x) caused me,” but this question is willingly overlooked in Naikan. The assumption of the Naikan approach is that we all are naturally good. If something goes wrong, we must not always look someone to blame for, instead, we must focus our energy on appreciating what other people provide.
The above questions bear a great power in them. The more you will practice answering these questions, the more they will help you recognize the characteristics and things that we take for granted. You will learn how to reconcile yourself with other people and events. At some point, you will be able to recognize what you owe to the world or vice versa. Remember, appreciation drives recognition and understanding. Stop fighting reality; you cannot change it. If you want to see the true essence of the things, you have to accept them as they actually are, instead of seeing them as you wish to. So, start accepting people and events as they are.
You will increase awareness of the life around you if you will educate yourself to appreciate it. Withdraw from your expectations and you will find new opportunities showing up to you every now and then. Appreciation starts with self-awareness. Try to practice the questions of “Naikan” to look inside yourself. Appreciation begins from there. No one can fight the weather. So it’s better to discover new opportunities, like rain or shine, instead of fear of the weather.
FAQ about Appreciate
What do you understand by appreciating?
Appreciate means to be grateful or thankful for something to someone: for example, they appreciated his meditation. Appreciate also means to value or regard highly; place a high estimation on to appreciate good lavender. It means to be fully conscious of; be aware of; detect: to appreciate the hazards of circumstances.
Describe the guidelines to appreciate an article?
1. To appreciate an article, a letter of compliment can be writing to the reader for his efforts. Encouraging words with direct tones should be used to value his work. While writing this letter, you don’t need to be self-centered, rather be sincere.
2. Speak about the writer’s effort and appreciate it.
3. Describe the best part of his work that you loved most.
4. Before ending your letter, mention an appreciation note for the writer’s effort.
Why is Appreciation vital?
The Key to a good relationship is Appreciation. Appreciation makes a difference in people’s lives by making them believe that they did something good. People feel better about themselves if appreciated. It reinforces the relations and urges people to move forward with new potency.
Liberationist.org: “Appreciation will help you see more opportunities.”
Hbr.org: “Appreciation Matters.”